Broken-Heart

Dear Me,

A friend from a far away land sent me an email. She's feeling lonely, depressed.

She got her heart broken.


To you,

I wish you well enough to be strong and be able to get through this. It really hurts to lose someone, esp when you have bared your entire emotions with a guy. I had been through that and I know how painful it is. Just let it out and it will really help if you help yourself get through it. You can cry and sulk for how long you want but after that, you better think when enough is enough. You have your own life now and mopping and crying over him will do you no good. Okay lang ang umiyak, one week, 2 weeks, a few months, basta pagkatapos ayusin mo na buhay mo. Kasi kahit gustuhin mong mag-move on kung ayaw naman ng puso at utak mo, wala rin mangyayari. Lolokohin mo lang sarili mo.

But while doing the wailing and the sulking, make sure that you take care of yourself. Kahit in a day, 2 hours, 4 hours pilitin mo kalimutan sya - work your ass off, go on a foodtrip with your friends or officemate, wander around, shop, get a new hobby, whatever it takes to make you forget for a while. And if you do want to forget for a while, just make sure you won't do something stupid like drink in a bar and get drunk or just go anywhere unsafe or contemplate bad things, you will regret it. It's an advice and I hope you take it. Believe me, I've been there, walked the same road as you do now.

Sometimes I really wonder why men do that? You know, a woman exert too much effort in trying to win the hearts again of ther bfs. I did that and as much as I felt humiliated for doing that, I still bowed down and begged him to take me back. Well, as you said, they have already made their decision and so be it.

Pampering yourself, going to the salon, beach, shop, eating sweets, sister, hindi ko naman sinabi na lustayin mo money mo na pinaghirapan mo jan. Just do it for a while. Wag naman always at mahirap kumita ng pera. Kakahinayang. Sige sumama kang mag-beach dun sa friend mo. Kumain ka ng matamis kung yun ang trip mo at the moment, wag mo nga lang gawin everyday at baka tumaba ka. Hehehe. Pakulay buhok? Ask mo na lang yung hair stylist kung anong bagay sa hair kasi di naman tulad dito sa Pinas na basta basta kukulayan yan. Examine muna nila hair mo or better yet, tell the stylist about your worries sa effect nun sa hair mo. They'll understand. Besides, try to be a little different. Tama nga mga tita mo, mag-ayos ka. If you can try to be daring, not the negative type ha, yung adventurous ba. Yung open to new change, etc.

In a nutshell lowlah, you have to LIVE FOR THE MOMENT. Wag mo muna masyado alalahanin ang future o any worries mo. It doesn't necessarily mean naman that you WILL forget your responsibilities and obligations. It only means that SOMETIMES you have to think about yourself.

Don't be stiff and try to let go, be loose for a while...It won't hurt, promise.

If you need to talk about it, I'm just an email away.


Take care,

ivan