Of Risk & Lifelong Commitment

Dear Me,

Sometimes, I know why things happen as they are. Sometimes, too, I wonder why they do. I was reading this article from somewhere and it got me thinking. For the men out there, is love really enough to subject yourselves into a lifelong commitment such as marriage? Most of the time, men make a gazillion excuses for not getting into marriage.

Allow me to share some excerpts from Joe D' Mango's Love Notes:

Men can make up a thousand excuses for not consenting to marriage. But whatever their justifications may be, they just point out one simple fact - they still do not find the relationship compelling enough to make a complete turn in their lives. Love is the fire that burns the desire to be with someone forever. He may love you but he still doesn't love you enough to take the risk of a lifelong commitment. Love knows no fear, and people who marry because of love sacrifice and commit themselves in making their marriage last.

At the end of the day, it would still be the man's decision. Your task is to make him realize that there is only one you, and if he lets this chance pass, there may never be another one. He has to feel that you are the single most important person in this world for him. Loving you should be the only thing that he would want to do.....Men do take their strength from the women they love. Make him happy because he chose you instead of making him feel guilty because he passed on his chance of being with the woman who loves him more than anything else in this world.